I feel like I could rewrite my last post and change the ending to fit what I’m going to share with you. But it really just makes me smile. I actually like knowing that God is in control and that He is for us. I read this quote from a blog last night and it resonated with me.
No, I wouldn’t have chosen this lot. I’m glad I didn’t get to though. He knows best and I’m learning that whatever my lot, He has taught me to know, it is well with my soul.
After we posted that we were adopting Brock and Betsy, we were approached by a couple of people telling us that it might not be wise to adopt older children when we have younger children in the home. We talked with our social worker who is doing our homestudy to get her thoughts. She agreed that it could be an issue but that it wasn’t a reason not to adopt, just that we need to be informed and aware. We didn’t know what to do and it was an agonizing few weeks of confusion, sadness, and most of all seeking the Lord.
We had a Skype conversation with a new friend of ours who has adopted Brock and Betsy’s friend from the same orphanage. We got off of that call and we knew that we weren’t supposed to adopt them. Rob and I make decisions very differently. I am a dreamer, Pollyanna, glass half full, everything will work out, kind of girl. He makes decisions based on logic and sometimes fear. Neither are bad, it’s just the way we are. As you can imagine though when we’re both really passionate about something, it’s hard for us to see the other person’s (completely opposite!) train of thought. I so wanted to make this work.
Our decision wasn’t made because Brock and Betsy are older and our girls are younger. We had very few fears about that. In our conversations about whether or not this was the best fit for us and them, Rob asked me to look at our calendar. It was the last week of February and we had already made our March calendar. On it, we had exactly 3 nights with nothing planned, between my full-time business, Jane’s school, homeschooling, church, Rob being in full-time church ministry.… In our conversation with our friend, we learned that Brock and Betsy are going to need lots of love, care and attention that we knew we couldn’t give them.
However, we couldn’t just leave them! We loved these children! We prayed for them often. We wept for them. Our girls talked about them and prayed for them all the time! So we got off of that call and we got down on our knees and we sought the Lord. We begged Him for wisdom and for a family for Brock and Betsy. We finished praying and I casually mentioned to Rob that I thought maybe we should ask another couple in our church if they would like to adopt them. This couple has 3 older children, a couple of them already gone off to college. Rob agreed and sent a quick text. They replied and we met with them the following night.
We left the meeting hopeful. They were going to talk and pray about it. We got a call a few days later that yes! They were going to adopt Brock and Betsy! I was very excited but even more so when I got a message from the wife a few days later with this in it.
We are just elated that Brock and Betsy have a home! And that we got to be a small part of it! AND that we get to be a part of their lives!
As for our little family, we’re back to square one. And loving every exciting minute of it.